I truly can’t remember Valentine’s Day ever being a big deal in my relationship with my husband. I think it’s probably because we also celebrate our wedding anniversary in February or maybe it’s because my husband’s lazy because we all know the pressure is always on the guy to have the most gorgeous bouquet of flowers delivered and then present us with the cutest little box wrapped in a pretty little ribbon, you know, the one from the jewelry store? In my husband’s defense, I always say I don’t want him to spend a crazy amount of money on me for such a silly little holiday. And I mean that, really I do, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want him to get a little creative and come up with something a little special that costs little or nothing and will mean more than some expensive flowers that will die within a few days or a piece of jewelry that will most likely live most of it’s life in my jewelry box. He knows where Google is and I know he knows how to use it, but since he always seems so busy doing other things, I came up with some ideas for him.
So honey, who pretty much never reads this blog, this list is for you:
- Write a love letter – no money involved, just your time and a little thought. Girls, put on some pretty lipstick and seal the envelope with a kiss. Guys, spritz that note with your cologne – I promise she will love it. If you want to make it a bit more romantic, slap a stamp on it and mail it to your sweetie.
- Date night at home – I know especially when my kids were little, we never went out on dates, but a little date night at home can be fun. Tuck the kids into bed, light a couple of candles, open a bottle of wine and eat some ramen noodles together, you know, like you did when you were first married and poor and you were getting by on each other’s love? Add some love songs on the tape player and you’ll be back in time feeling all warm and fuzzy with goosebumps.
- Turn-taking massage – Okay, so I know I’m not the only one who enjoys a good foot rub or back massage. I don’t always like to give them, however, but for the sake of love and a little give and take AND if my husband washes his feet, I think it’s fun to switch back and forth treating each other to a little stress relief. Add some oils and this gets, well, a little more fun.
- Combine all three – Seriously, I can’t think of a better way to spend the day or evening of Valentine’s with husband, or any day for that matter.
For me it’s truly about the time and thought more than it’s about the amount of money spent. That’s the easy way out, in my opinion. Anyone can order flowers or make a dinner reservation, but expressing your love in a letter or giving someone your focused attention creates memories to last a really long time…..or at least until your next argument, which isn’t always bad because you can then spend some quality time to together making up after the disagreement, if you know what I mean.
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